Family Fun Nights

IMG_3620Last year, I wrote a post about “last times”.  In it, I reflected on the sadness that I feel when participating in “last time” events with my kids.  A few weeks ago, I developed a visual of my 18 for 2018.  One of the items on my visual is “Family Fun Friday Night” once a month.  That is one of my ways to make sure that as the kids get older and want to start doing things with friends, that we have one Friday night a month that is for our family.  We are each responsible for planning the evening for three different months in 2018.  Each person is able to plan Family Fun Friday for their birthday month and then we are randomly choosing the remaining two months.

Chloe chose January and last night was our first Family Fun Friday Night!  She did a great job in planning. She decided that we were going to have an evening in and she told us that we needed to wear our pajamas (my kind of girl!).  Then, we had game night.  She had us play three different games, and even though her brother complained about having to spend so much time with us, I think that he secretly enjoyed himself, too!

Our schedules are so crazy these days, and my friend Donalyn Miller once said that we make time for what is important — she was talking about reading, but I have a feeling she will agree that family is important, too! It is with that attitude that I wanted to create something where the four of us set aside the outside world for a few hours and just concentrated on bonding as a family.  Our first evening was a success!  Clark is in charge of planning the February evening, because February is his birthday month.  I can’t wait to see what he has in store for us!



One Little Word 2018

As on reflect on the year 2017, I recognize that it seems to have gone by in a blur.  As I began 2017, I had plans to live with more intention.  While my year certainly started off that way, it most certainly did not end that way, as evidenced by my five blog posts for the year.  What the heck??

I feel like 2017 was the year of pinning my life against the target of time.  There just never seemed to be enough of it.  But, isn’t that always the way?  So, 2018 will be the year I take my time back.

I want to make time to make memories with my family, to write regularly, to paint often (a newly discovered enjoyment), and to have clarity.

So, with all of that being said, my focus for 2018 is to CREATE.

In order to live with intention around my focus, I’ve also created a map of 18 for 2018.  Hopefully, these two visuals will help the planner in me CREATE action!    IMG_3657


18 for 2018

IMG_3658About 7 years ago, I made a “40 for 40” list.  My intention was to achieve all 40 items on my bucket list by the time I turned 40.  However, on my 40th birthday, I had only achieved 1/4 of my list.  But, that’s ok. I’ll just add 10 more and turn it into my “50 for 50” list.  I have seven and a half more years to accomplish those!

A few weeks ago, on the Happier podcast, someone mentioned that they had a list of 35 items they wanted to accomplish during their 35th year.  Gretchen Rubin and Liz Craft, the podcast hosts, adapted that line of thinking and decided to create a list of 18 for 2018.  I have followed suit.

I am a planner. Last year, at the last minute (and therein lies the problem for a planner!), I decided to create a “one little word” post that was meant to be my focus for 2017.  However, I chose the word, but there was little follow through, because I did not have a plan.  This year, I created my 18 for 2018 vision map first.  My 18 choices led me to my one little word, which I will reveal tomorrow.

A New Year is always a time for reflection, projection, and action.  As I reflect on 2017, I realize how chaotic (in my mind) the year became.  I feel like I lost a lot of time to meaningless things.  There are certain things in my life that become time sucks and I need to change that.  I need to reframe my thinking and start projecting.  My vision map for 2018 is my projection for the year.  And having a vision will help me take action!

I hope all of you have a wonderful start to your new year, and achieve all you set out to in 2018!